Showing posts with label bedtime. Show all posts
Showing posts with label bedtime. Show all posts

Friday, 13 April 2012

Once Upon a Week - Mothers Rituals


There is a part of the day that perhaps I hold the most fondly above all. It is a part that goes unseen, unheard, and one that all mothers have a talent and tendency to do ritually.
When the day is over and after all their day of adventures, of wondering,of pursuing their desires the children are tucked into bed, we read them a story that may quieten their busy minds or perhaps invite wonderful dreams, and then, in the silence of their room I sit beside them as they sleep. Stroking their hair away from their face, absorbing their troubles. I watch them a while as their day echos through me. Yet we are actually doing something that every mother knows is really rather magical indeed.
Last night as the girls fell asleep against the meandering rhythms of their undulating thoughts I remembered a passage at the beginning of 'Peter Pan' in which J.M Barrie describes the ritual beautifully.

Mrs Darling first heard of Peter when she was tidying up her children's minds. It is the nightly custom of every good mother after her children are asleep to rummage in their minds and put things straight for the next morning, repacking into their proper places the many articles that have wandered during the day. If you could keep awake (but of course you can't) you would see your own mother doing this, and you would find it very interesting to watch her. It is quite like tidying up drawers. You would see her on her knees, I expect, lingering humorously over some of your contents, wondering where on earth you had picked this thing up, making discoveries sweet and not so sweet, pressing this to her cheek as if it were as nice as a kitten, and hurriedly stowing that out of sight. When you wake in the morning, the naughtiness and evil passions with which you went to bed have been folded up small and placed at the bottom of your mind; and on top, beautifully aired, are spread out your prettier thoughts, ready for you to put on.

Walking away from their room into the silence of our hushed home I discover the paused play, the what grown ups call 'mess' but is in actual fact the travelling of their minds. A map of their thoughts interpreted by their play; the pink dinsosaur paused in his position hanging from the plank of the pirate ship, the circle of dolls and doted upon characters still awating another slice of cake, a pile of pictures and beginnings of stories interupted by annother idea and abandoned at the concept of creating a huge castle/town using every piece of lego, building blocks and boxes they can find.

It is this smile I wear at this moment, the smile that forgets the most mundane of motherly chores, that smile that obliterates harder moments. It is a smile that if had words would say I am happy. I am floating above happy, and, this life we have together is an adventure I never want to stop. And so, then, as the children sleep and dream I tidy away the day ready for a new. Beacuse, the adventures of tomrrow never stop.

Whilst Neverland may be second to the right and straight on til morning mine is right here.





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Tuesday, 17 May 2011

The Story Behind our Collections: Aden+Anais

Back in January 2010 my sister and I were quite innocent to trade shows as we were in the early stages of planning the Sisters Guild Boutique.  We arrived at Bubble London full of wide-eyed wonder, all nervous and excited!

One of the first people we spoke to was a beautifully pregnant Raegan Moya-Jones, the co-founder of Aden+Anais.  We touched the muslins all hanging beautifully in a line, we felt broody remembering the swaddling phase and instantly knew that the swaddles, blankets and other designs of Aden+Anais had to be part of what the Sisters Guild Boutique offered.



Raegan is so passionate about the muslin fabric and the benefits of swaddling.  We spoke about babies and sleep and sisters of course - chatting about how lovely it would be to have 3 girls (which she now has!) - all the while feeling the soft muslin fabric and swooning over the pretty designs.


Raegans' story starts in Australia where she witnessed how the practice of swaddling babies in muslin sheets helped both sleep and bonding for baby and mama. It was in the USA when Raegan became a mother herself that she tried to find large swaddles - alas, finding them too small, too thick or unappealing she decided to design her own!  Thus, Aden+Anais was born. 

Raegan created a swaddle large enough to be truly useful to mothers 'not just for swaddling but as a stroller cover, nursing shield, tummy time blanket, or a burping cloth.'  Raegan believes in the legacy of muslin - the world's oldest and most cherished cotton fabric - and she sourced the softest muslin she could find to create designs that are modern and stylish yet gentle and charming too.  They have certainly charmed the world.


The Aden+Anais collection offers things for mama and baby that are so useful and beautiful - cloths for dribbles, blankets for security and snuggling, soft washcloths for bathtime and sleeping bags for when they are passed the swaddling stage - all made in the softest muslin fabric.




The Aden+Anais sleeping bags are amazing.  The cozy winter sleeping bag has 4 layers of muslin which makes it a warm yet still breathable design for colder nights - no kicking-off the blanket and getting chilly in the night!  The summer sleeping bag is a single muslin layer which is so ideal for warm nights, especially on holiday, where your baby or toddler still needs a light layer - and when they wriggle about they don't end up with a loose sheet or blanket.  They really do help with a good nights sleep!

The Aden+Anais swaddles really are big at 120cm x 120cm (47" x 47") which makes them so useful - I see them used a lot as buggy covers and even as a sarong or scarf for mama too!  They are pre-washed which makes them soft to start with and the more you wash them the softer they get.  For swaddling they are so easy as they are large and the fabric has a natural 'give' allows the blanket to be tucked snuggly around a baby without being overly restrictive. Aden+Anais have a swaddling guide here 

It was a natural instinct for me to swaddle my baby especially as he was born in December.  He looked so beautifully cocconed and cosy and we both enjoyed the ritual of swaddling as it signalled feeding, cuddles, comfort and sleep.  Swaddling is an ancient practice and when I see and hear about swaddling it is so reassuring to know that a mother's instinct is still strong.

The Aden+Anais collection encourages the practice of swaddling and that can only be beneficial to mamas and babies around the world.  Raegan has written a book the aden + anais Swaddle Love Book which is a celebration of babies and swaddling.  Raegan also set up the Swaddle Love Foundation who's mission is to provide orphaned babies with the basic of human connections – touch. You can read more about it here.

Aden+Anais is significant to us as it was part of Sisters Guild at the very beginning. Aden+Anais helped the boutique evolve into a place to find things for your baby that have been thoughtfully-designed, collections that have a female story behind them!


This is part of our series of blog posts about the Story Behind our Collections - why we've chosen the designers that are in the boutique and how those designers came to be.

To see a bit more of what Sisters Guild is all about take a look at the A-Z of Sisters Guild here.

Friday, 11 March 2011

An A -Z of Sisters Guild - B




bedtime: [ˈbɛdˌtaɪm] noun 1 the time at which one goes to bed. 2 a bedtime story

Carla: Did you have a nice nap?
Sessi (at 2): I wasn't sleeping I was just resting my eyes.

Gabriel (3): 'Mummy, they paint pictures in my bed at night-time' (an interesting decsription of dreams!)

Bekka remembers: ' Muuuum, Carla won't stop singing and I'm trying to go to sleep' (we shared a bedroom. Carla would wake up singing too!)

Friday, 21 January 2011

Swaddle me happy

Swaddling is an ancient practice, a mothers gentle and loving act of wrapping her baby so it is safely cocooned just like in the womb.

Swaddling felt right for me and Gabriel from day one.  It was instinctive perhaps because it was winter and also because Gabe had constant flayling arms - I later read that boys tend to have the 'moro reflex' stronger and for longer, and Gabe certainly did so he was swaddled for a long time and it mostly made for calm bedtimes and restful nights.


Some babies may not be so keen on swaddling but most enjoy the initial sense of being wrapped and cocconed.  I have to say that I also liked the neat little bundle they become when they are swaddled.

Swaddling became part of our bedtime ritual, the swaddling and feeding being a consistent sign that sleepy time was here.  I also used a smudge of Badger baby balm (from Infinity Foods or online here from my fave new skincare site lovelula.com) on the swaddling, which was another sleep association.  I'm not saying any of these things are guaranteed baby sleep techniques as I reckon that following our own instincts is the only way, but these little things helped me be calm and that was the key (didn't stop bedtime being horrendous sometimes, but I shall choose to forget those moments especially now that I'm thinking about having another baby!)

If anyone is looking for a book recommendation then I can say that Gentle First Year by Gowri Motha is a book that is really encouraging and made me feel confident in my instincts.  Not sure that with a second baby I will have quite so much time to lie around and sleep and massage and be in a newborn baby bubble for so long, but it's lovely thinking about it!

To swaddle you need a large enough blanket, piece of fabric or ideally a large muslin that will fold into a large  triangle shape, with 2 points of the triangle long enough to wrap around.  It's best described here. I did struggle with blankets that weren't large enough and actually ended up with only one perfect swaddling blanket, a knitted blanket from my sis that I shall treasure.  I genuinely wish I had found Aden+Anais swaddling wraps when Gabe was a baby as they are so large and perfect and have so many other uses too. Muslin really is a perfect fabric - soft, breathable and comforting. My future baby things wish list is shaping up nicely...and I'm getting broody for sure.